psychology – Bobby J Mattingly

Staying in a Toxic Relationship is Never Unconditional Love

I believe that there is a gross misconception about the definition of unconditional love. It seems that a lot of people are under the mistaken impression that in order to love people unconditionally it is necessary to endure various levels of abuse from these people.

The Social Media Effect

I believe most of us are aware that there is no such thing as a perfect person. But even though we are armed with this knowledge, perfectionism in our world continues to grow at a rapid rate.

Don’t Tell Me to Smile

As someone who believes very strongly in popular concepts like ‘The Law of Attraction’ and ‘The Power of Positive Thinking’, it can be incredibly difficult to rationalize or explain things like depression. Yes, maybe I did manifest this negative spiritual and emotional energy into existence by focusing too much on what I didn’t want, but please don’t tell me that.

Letting go of Self-Hate

Over time I became bitter and deeply depressed. I began to lose touch with my wide-eyed boyhood aspirations of changing the world and slowly morphed into what I liked least about the world. I started hanging around with the “wrong people” and making very poor choices. I became hopeless.

Healing Through the Hurt

Everyone hurts. Everyone has been hurt by someone and everyone has hurt someone. It takes a great deal of strength and integrity to admit when you are wrong.

What if, YOU are the TOXIC one?

What if, you are pointing the finger at everyone else so you don’t have to look at yourself? What if, everyone seems to be against you because you have unwittingly placed yourself into the position of the ‘bad guy’? What if, you are stuck in a perpetual loop of self-sabotage and self-victimization and are unable to view things objectively? What if, you have problems wherever you go and with everyone you meet, because you and your self-centered thinking ARE the problem?

Fear is the Illness, Love is the Cure

Some people only want to see you suffering because they are suffering. Some people only hate you because they hate themselves. Some people only put you down, because they need to be lifted up.