If you have to hurt other people in order to feel powerful, you are an extremely weak individual. — Bobby J Mattingly
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Love is not Free
When we are truly in love with someone, we are willing to pay for that love with much more than silver and gold. Love is not a commodity to be bought, sold and traded, but it is a precious energy that costs us our life force.
Staying in a Toxic Relationship is Never Unconditional Love
I believe that there is a gross misconception about the definition of unconditional love. It seems that a lot of people are under the mistaken impression that in order to love people unconditionally it is necessary to endure various levels of abuse from these people.
Why I Stopped Writing
I haven’t written anything in several months and I don’t have any excuses. There is nothing that I can reach out and grab to throw in front of me as the reason why I haven’t written. I chose not to, even though I wanted to. But why? It wasn’t a busy, hectic schedule. I didn’t neglect to write for lack of subject matter. The only thing that stopped me from writing, was me. I was afraid.
How to Suck at Life
The internet is saturated with self-help articles, books, videos, podcasts, and courses on how to become the most successful version of yourself. I’m going to approach this subject from a different perspective. Let’s explore how to be the most unsuccessful version of yourself. If you want to lose jobs, alienate people, become homeless and pretty much suck at life altogether, then this will be your little handbook of failure.
Have We Weakened the Power of Love?
Throughout my entire life, I have heard people overuse, misinterpret and absolutely adulterate the word love in the English language. Hell, I’ve even been guilty of it myself on multiple occasions. I can’t help but think that maybe we have weakened the power of such a significant spiritual force in the world, by overusing the word with very weak connotations.
The Social Media Effect
I believe most of us are aware that there is no such thing as a perfect person. But even though we are armed with this knowledge, perfectionism in our world continues to grow at a rapid rate.
Don’t Tell Me to Smile
As someone who believes very strongly in popular concepts like ‘The Law of Attraction’ and ‘The Power of Positive Thinking’, it can be incredibly difficult to rationalize or explain things like depression. Yes, maybe I did manifest this negative spiritual and emotional energy into existence by focusing too much on what I didn’t want, but please don’t tell me that.
Keeping it Real in a Fake World
In today’s society, it can be quite difficult to be or even know how to be, who you really are as an individual. You are presented with so many preconceived ideas and notions of who you are at such a young age, that it is easy to be confused about your authentic self.
You Are Not Alone
Pain is a necessary precursor to progress. All pain carries a message. Whether it be physical, emotional, or spiritual pain, it all has a message to deliver. The stronger the pain, the more urgent the message. In order to clearly receive and process these messages, we must first learn how to focus the mind.